Resources
Practical tools for couples, families and individuals. Built from the same values that guide the work in session.
Rituals of Connection Guide
A free download from Therapy with Zion
Most couples don't drift apart in a single moment. They drift in the accumulated ordinary — the goodbye tossed over a shoulder, the hello absorbed by a screen, the meal eaten in the same room but not together. Connection doesn't usually die of betrayal. It dies of not being scheduled.
A ritual of connection is a small, pre-decided practice that a marriage can count on. Not a grand gesture. A repeated one. The Gottmans found that couples who build these — who decide in advance how they'll greet each other, how they'll part, how they'll mark a hard day — carry a durability that couples running on good intentions do not.
This worksheet helps you build yours.
Inside you'll find 43 everyday moments that are candidates for ritual, from bedtime to grocery runs to how you bring up a hard thing. Then a set of questions to plan one well — not just the logistics of when and how often, but the parts couples usually skip:
What each of you inherited from the families that raised you, and what you want to bury
Where your pictures of this quietly differ
What you'll tell yourselves the first week you miss it
What you're saying no to in order to say yes to this
What God might be doing in it
Print it. Sit down with it. Pick one.
Best used with a pen, two chairs, and no phones. Suitable for couples working with a therapist or on their own.
👥 For Couples
📄 PDF Download
🕒 1 sitting, 30-45 minutes
🎁 FREE
Connection rarely dies of betrayal. It dies of not being scheduled — the goodbye tossed over a shoulder, the hello absorbed by a screen, the meal eaten in the same room but not together.
A ritual of connection is a small, pre-decided practice your marriage can count on. Not a grand gesture. A repeated one. This worksheet helps you choose one and build it well — including the parts couples usually skip.
What's inside
✓ 43 everyday moments that are candidates for ritual — from bedtime to hard days to how you bring up a difficult thing
✓ The Gottmans' core planning questions: when, how often, who initiates, how it ends
✓ Family-of-origin prompts — what each of you inherited, and what you want to bury
✓ A repair plan for the week you miss it, including a "low-tide version" for sick kids and travel
✓ Sensory and threshold prompts: what marks the start, what isn't allowed inside it
✓ A faith layer for couples who want it
Notice how many of these rituals need a device to be put down first? Fixed Attention takes that one.
A free download from Therapy with Zion
Most couples don't drift apart in a single moment. They drift in the accumulated ordinary — the goodbye tossed over a shoulder, the hello absorbed by a screen, the meal eaten in the same room but not together. Connection doesn't usually die of betrayal. It dies of not being scheduled.
A ritual of connection is a small, pre-decided practice that a marriage can count on. Not a grand gesture. A repeated one. The Gottmans found that couples who build these — who decide in advance how they'll greet each other, how they'll part, how they'll mark a hard day — carry a durability that couples running on good intentions do not.
This worksheet helps you build yours.
Inside you'll find 43 everyday moments that are candidates for ritual, from bedtime to grocery runs to how you bring up a hard thing. Then a set of questions to plan one well — not just the logistics of when and how often, but the parts couples usually skip:
What each of you inherited from the families that raised you, and what you want to bury
Where your pictures of this quietly differ
What you'll tell yourselves the first week you miss it
What you're saying no to in order to say yes to this
What God might be doing in it
Print it. Sit down with it. Pick one.
Best used with a pen, two chairs, and no phones. Suitable for couples working with a therapist or on their own.
Technology doesn't just affect your screen time. It shapes the atmosphere of your home, the intimacy of your marriage, and what your children learn about attention. This guided workbook helps couples build a shared, faith-rooted plan for how technology fits into your life together. Not a list of restrictions. A declaration of values — and a practical structure to live them out.
What's inside
✓ Honest self-assessment for each spouse — answered individually, then shared
✓ Age-based guidance for children from infancy through adulthood
✓ A menu of 6 discipline categories to choose from — time, space, connection, faith, content, and family philosophy
✓ A co-signed Rule of Life to complete together
✓ An accountability plan with built-in 90-day and annual review prompts
✓ Optional section for blended families and co-parenting situations
Fixed Attention: A Technological Rule of Life
👥 For Couples
📄 PDF Download
🕒 2 sittings, 60-90 minutes each
Technology doesn't just affect your screen time. It shapes the atmosphere of your home, the intimacy of your marriage, and what your children learn about attention. This guided workbook helps couples build a shared, faith-rooted plan for how technology fits into your life together. Not a list of restrictions. A declaration of values — and a practical structure to live them out.
What's inside
✓ Honest self-assessment for each spouse — answered individually, then shared
✓ Age-based guidance for children from infancy through adulthood
✓ A menu of 6 discipline categories to choose from — time, space, connection, faith, content, and family philosophy
✓ A co-signed Rule of Life to complete together
✓ An accountability plan with built-in 90-day and annual review prompts
✓ Optional section for blended families and co-parenting situations
Available as a digital download or a printed set of two bound workbooks.
Technology doesn't just affect your screen time. It shapes the atmosphere of your home, the intimacy of your marriage, and what your children learn about attention. This guided workbook helps couples build a shared, faith-rooted plan for how technology fits into your life together. Not a list of restrictions. A declaration of values — and a practical structure to live them out.
What's inside
✓ Honest self-assessment for each spouse — answered individually, then shared
✓ Age-based guidance for children from infancy through adulthood
✓ A menu of 6 discipline categories to choose from — time, space, connection, faith, content, and family philosophy
✓ A co-signed Rule of Life to complete together
✓ An accountability plan with built-in 90-day and annual review prompts
✓ Optional section for blended families and co-parenting situations
Digital Download
Printed Set of Two
Technology doesn't just affect your screen time. It shapes the atmosphere of your home, the intimacy of your marriage, and what your children learn about attention. This guided workbook helps couples build a shared, faith-rooted plan for how technology fits into your life together. Not a list of restrictions. A declaration of values — and a practical structure to live them out.
What's inside
✓ Honest self-assessment for each spouse — answered individually, then shared
✓ Age-based guidance for children from infancy through adulthood
✓ A menu of 6 discipline categories to choose from — time, space, connection, faith, content, and family philosophy
✓ A co-signed Rule of Life to complete together
✓ An accountability plan with built-in 90-day and annual review prompts
✓ Optional section for blended families and co-parenting situations
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Individual Workbook
A Personal Rule of Life
The same framework as Fixed Attention, but designed for the individual. Not a productivity system. Not a self-improvement plan. A trellis. A structure that lifts you off the ground and positions you to bear fruit — in your attention, your faith, your daily life. Built from the ancient wisdom of a Rule of Life and the modern science of habit formation.
Couples Workbook
Brakes and Accelerators
A guided workbook for couples who want a more connected, pleasurable, and sacred sex life. Drawing on research-based models of desire, this tool helps partners understand what gets in the way (and what opens the door) to deeper physical and emotional intimacy.
Individual Guide
Nervous System Reset
Practical, body-based tools for people who feel chronically overwhelmed, reactive, or shut down. Grounded in attachment theory and somatic awareness, this guide helps you recognize your patterns and build a personalized regulation practice that actually fits your life.